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life after disability approval
« on: February 27, 2020, 12:45:01 pm »
A bit of a background first....
2/28/19 I was let go from my job of a few months shy of 27 years due to substandard work. They agreed to let me collect unemployment as long as I didn't fight the release through the union, got that in writing. Collected uc for 6 months while looking for a new job. Had a few promising, I thought, interviews and was offered a few jobs until they sent me for a physical. All I ever did was factory work, machine operator basically. After 3 failed physicals from 3 different companies got to the point where I basically told them the chances of my passing was slim to none, which pretty much ended things then and there. Had a few interviews for office type work, which I knew I could do, but no schooling or degree kind of made it so that wasn't going to happen, even with a friend who worked there vouching for me.
Fast forward a few months and hubby and I were out one day and ran into an ex coworker of mine. He said that he was able to get on disability and gave me a business card of the attorney he used. Kept it in my wallet but didn't think much of it. A few weeks later I was really down after yet another rejection and hubby asked if I seriously gave any thought to trying to get disability. Guess that is what got the wheels turning.
I applied 7/2019, retroactive to my last day of work. Filled out everything I got in the mail for my medical records, including from occupational health about my failed physicals, filled out adult function report and my job history. Job history was much easier, wasn't sure how to fill out function report as I can do alot, just takes me more time and more breaks.
9/2019 I was sent for a physical to disability doctor, got a copy of that report from my family doctor. She had some stuff on there I wasn't even aware of.
11/19-12/19 I was in QR. Logged in one day closer to Christmas and found out I was approved. Payments started 1/20

Now to living after approval. I honestly feel lost, I know it is due to how I was brought up. Saw both my parents work hard, never call in sick, and honestly both work past probably when they should have retired (they have since passed on.) Even running into people I know and ask if I got another job, or if I'm still where I was, I have a hard time bringing myself to say "I got disability". I don't want this to be my life, but sadly this is the hand I was dealt.

Roughly 95% of my ailments are physical in nature, I have been on depression meds for probably 25 years but they never impared me from working. Meds are prescribed by my family doctor. I saw a counselor but she ended up moving away and work got crazy so I never went back (I was working 5-6 12 hour days a week when let go). My CE was only physical, was never sent for a mental evaluation.

Am I the only one who feels lost after approval? Hope this makes sense. So much I want to say but not sure how to get it from my head to my hands.   

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Re: life after disability approval
« Reply #1 on: February 27, 2020, 02:26:07 pm »
Do you like animals ? If you do, contact your local animal shelter about volunteering. Explain to them your physical limitations. Volunteers can walk animals and play with them.

Do you have a interest in helping those in domestic violence situations ? Some domestic violence centers use volunteers to answer the Hotlines after hours. Most centers call forward their number to your number. There are also rape crisis centers. Often victims are hesitant to call law enforcement or seek medical attention.

You still have a lot you can contribute. But how you do that has changed. Your time is valuable. Not being paid with money and benefits does not mean it has no value. You are paid in ways that money cannot buy.

There are countless places in communities that desperately need caring volunteers. If you like reading, contact your local library. If you enjoy being around seniors, contact your local center for the aging.  If you are a religious person, contact your church. The possibilities are endless. How many hours you volunteer and how often is up to you.
Nerve damage in upper and lower extremities. Degenerative Disc Disease, RA.

Hope the size of a mustard seed can produce Faith that can move mountains.

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Re: life after disability approval
« Reply #2 on: February 27, 2020, 03:21:08 pm »
I know how you feel.  I was approved early last year and I'm still adjusting.  A job forces you to schedule your life in a certain way.  Having no time restriction makes it harder to decide what to do and when to do it.  Since you do suffer from depression, I would suggest going to mental health support groups.  That is what I do.  There is a non-profit mental health agency that runs four groups a day, one hour each, so you get the feeling of a schedule if you go every day or multiple times a week.  They aren't all "talk therapy" either.  There are art therapy groups, music therapy, and I go to a photography group as well.

The worst part for me is in answering to other people when they inevitably ask their favorite question, "What do you DO?"  That's where you tell them about your fabulous job, if you have one.  I don't like to reveal I'm on disability.  It's none of their business and I don't need to deal with judgement.  So my answers vary, but it's uncomfortable.

Try to think of ways to delve into things that interest you and hopefully you'll find your groove!
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Conditions:  Major depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Avoidant Personality Disorder, Panic Disorder, Asthma, Sleep Apnea, Hypertension, Anemia.
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Re: life after disability approval
« Reply #3 on: February 27, 2020, 03:21:38 pm »
I used to volunteer with a local rescue of labs. I did house checks before and about a month after adopting. I had to stop because of crazy work schedule. I emailed her about getting back to it and she said she’ll put me back in rotation in April.

Thanks for the other ideas.

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« Reply #4 on: February 27, 2020, 03:29:33 pm »
Jeanniem, that is Wonderful ! Labs Are Amazing !
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Re: life after disability approval
« Reply #5 on: February 27, 2020, 05:07:31 pm »
Justme I agree!! I've been owned by 3 😀

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Re: life after disability approval
« Reply #6 on: February 27, 2020, 05:59:06 pm »
Hi !

I love this post because I too, have been wondering what am I going to do now with my life? I'm not dead, but some days I feel like it.  I'm wondering what is my purpose in life now?  What can I do to contribute to society?  What is my worth now? I'm not sure if any of this makes sense. I grapple with this on a daily basis.

  Anyway, before I ramble on and on I just wanted to say think you for this post! And thank you to JUSTME for recommending some things to do out of the home! I honestly can say I haven't thought of those things and I am going to start looking into some things. :)

Thanks again,
Rose

   
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Re: life after disability approval
« Reply #7 on: February 27, 2020, 06:02:16 pm »
I was owned by 1 for over 16 years. .LOL.

Some training is involved with domestic violence and rape crisis. Usually it is just a few hours.
« Last Edit: February 27, 2020, 06:05:21 pm by Just Me »
Nerve damage in upper and lower extremities. Degenerative Disc Disease, RA.

Hope the size of a mustard seed can produce Faith that can move mountains.

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Re: life after disability approval
« Reply #8 on: March 02, 2020, 10:05:21 am »
Hi Rose and TeamBob. I certainly understand. I went from forcing myself to work 60 + hours a week, some days crying in my car before I drove home because the pain was so bad to ok now what do I do? Part of my issue is I worked night shift for many many years. Night is still when I feel most alive and the best I feel all day but hubby is usually in bed and kids are playing video games or sleeping or homework. There really aren't a whole lot of volunteer opportunities at 11 pm. I feel like its almost like an identity crisis. Over the weekend I looked at Volunteers of America to see what I can do, even if I can help with paperwork or making calls from home, just something to make myself feel useful, right now we are down to 1 vehicle while the other is getting fixed so obviously hubby needs that for work.

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« Reply #9 on: March 04, 2020, 05:00:54 am »
Domestic violence and rape crisis centers usually have 24 hour hotlines. Other hotlines are also 24 hours. But I am only familiar with domestic violence and rape crisis.
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Nerve damage in upper and lower extremities. Degenerative Disc Disease, RA.

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Re: life after disability approval
« Reply #10 on: March 04, 2020, 11:32:27 pm »
When you say you feel lost, can you clarify what goes through your mind? For example:

-financial worries due to less income?
-you feel guilty for receiving money and not having to work for it each day?
-you don't know what you will do with all your extra time?
-you feel discouraged that you cannot work anymore, even though you did all of your adult life?
-you feel your quality of life will go down in some way, for any reason?